The thought process for this post started when the lovely Seaneen posted a comment stating “lady, you astonish me” on a couple of posts ago.
Since then a lot of people have said either that I amaze and astonish them for being able to deal with the primary and secondary cancers as well as coming to terms with being bipolar. The thing is I’m not really coping with it, in fact I’m not really coping with anything anymore. I’ve just finished one cycle of chemo and a session of radiotherapy. I cried throughout both of them.
Another comment read that surely because I’ve attempted suicide so often then dying from cancer should be a relief to me. The thing is feeling suicidal and acting on those plans from your mental turmoil is a very different from living a life that may be cut short at 23 or 24.
Dr Mc is worried about me. We have been exchanging emails all week and yesterday he decided to prescribe olanzapine alongside all my other meds. Frankly I don’t care about the weight gain at the moment, I’ve got bigger fish to fry. Well, I say that but of cause I am terrified but am trying to push it to the back of my mind whilst I process the cancer issue in my very small brain.
I am going to see a good friend of mine tomorrow and have coffee and lunch. This is the first time my parents have let me out of the house on my own (except for when I sneaked out when I was manic and crashed my car) since the middle of December when I was admitted. At first my Mum wasn’t going to let me go as one of the suicide attempts happened when I said I was visiting a friend and I ended up at Beachy Head.
I have a morbid fascination with Beachy Head. I love the views out to the Channel and the wind that blows all the cobwebs away, but also there is that deadly feel to it. The people who have had the courage to jump – who have died or been paralysed or who have survived without a scratch. Then there are the people like me who have stood on the edge edging closer and closer to falling off or waiting for the cliff to collapse beneath out feet and then get manhandled off by the police or chaplaincy team to end up either sectioned and taken to A&E/a police cell and/or taken to a psych unit or those who are assessed and deemed mentally fit. Then there are those who arrive at the scene and drive off again not sure why they are there and if they really do feel suicidal. It is one of the most beautiful places I know tinged with the undertones of tiredness, sadness, desperation and mourning.
As for the title, I am not sure if being called all those things is good. Is it because I am coping? Is it because people want me to feel better? Or is it because I have the reverse Midas touch.
Answers on a postcard or in the comments as usual.
Ruth